Men and women deal with cheating very differently. And it is quite odd. It has forced me to beg the question: why do men take it so personally if their woman cheats on them AFTER having cheated on her? Like, what other way should she get us back? And why is that the worst way to get a guy back, anyway??
Why Do Men and Women See Cheating Differently?
I really don’t understand this phenomenon. This could always go back to my theory that women are just better people, and thereby more forgiving, so upon finding out that their man cheated, the woman just may decide that he made a mistake (assuming he lets her know that he made a mistake) and take him back. Or at least give him a chance to right his wrongs (though if you think about it, if he gets caught once, he’ll just make sure not to get caught a second time – in a day and age where even pastors are cheating on their wives it’s almost a foregone conclusion that once a cheater, always a cheater).
I know quite a few women who have been cheated on and they took their men back afterward. Whether or not this was a good idea is totally up for debate, but they did. On the other hand, I don’t know a single dude who would stay with a woman who cheated on him.
Myself included. And I have no idea why this is. What makes it even more strange is that even men that I KNOW have cheated on their girlfriends would be pissed to high hell if they found out their woman cheated on them. There’s no second chances and no forgiveness. One and done.
Women, though never forgetting, just may give the dude some time to re-prove his love. And many men (wish death upon me) will take that chance and attempt to get their stuff together.
Or at least not get caught again.
I know quite a few women who have been cheated on and they took their men back afterward. On the other hand, I don’t know a single dude who would stay with a woman who cheated on him.
Now perhaps women just don’t like finding a brand new man and having to go through the process of dating and getting to know somebody over and over again (which would explain the “boomerang cheeks” that are so popular amongst ex-lovers…why find new cheeks when the old cheeks will do just fine), especially with the alleged dearth of good men out there. So maybe, the idea of the devil you know versus the devil you don’t know is worth the risk. As a man, I know that there are other fish in the sea and I’ve never felt like I’d be alone for long unless I wanted to be. But I don’t know.
Anyway, would you consider taking somebody back after they’ve cheated on you? Why or why not? And for dudes, (assuming you’d kick her to the curb faster than Bill Clinton and a new intern) why is it such a finite deal breaker?